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LETTER TO RAFI AAMER…May 14, 2006

MOTHER’S DAY

Dear Rafi,

A few years ago I met a wonderful Urdu writer in Toronto. He shared some of his poems and stories with me. I was impressed. When I asked him to share his creations with other writers and friends, he declined. I was shocked to find out that even his beloved wife did not know that she was married to a wonderful writer. Finally he gave me blessing to translate one of his poems in English. Since it is about Mother’s Day, I am sending it to you as an attachment.

You may not be aware that my relationship with my mother was painful. I felt suffocated by her love and she felt rejected by my living in Canada while she lived in Pakistan. But after her death the ice of resentment started to melt in some mysterious way. In the last few months I had a number of dreams about her that helped me dissolve my conflict with her. I would have never imagined in my wildest imagination that my relationship with my mother would improve after her death. So on Mother’s Day I wrote my first poem in her memory. I am also sending you that poem.

It is also an interesting coincidence that when Dennis Isaac and I received an invitation from our dear director friend Azeem Sajjad (Zoomie) from Lahore to participate in a tele-film festival, the story that Dennis chose was about my mother. It is called Yousaf’s Mother. It is a sad story. That is why I never shared it with my mother while she was alive. I remember once when I visited Sweden and Sain Sucha asked me to read a story in Ahmed Faqih’s house, I chose to read that story. When I finished the story I was touched to see tears rolling down on the cheeks of women present in the gathering. Dennis believes that filming that story will also touch many hearts when they see it on the screen. I am amazed how Dennis transforms written words into moving images. Many people tell me that my personality and writings are quite intense and would like me to mellow down. I think I am already mellowing as I am getting older. I wonder how do you think your personality affects others and what kind of feedback you get from others about your writings?

Affectionately,

Sohail

 

 

 

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